My wonderful people, how have you been? Did you miss me as much as I miss you guys? I didn’t just suddenly disappear, I have been equipping myself to remain the best version of me at all time, and so, I am more than happy to let you know I have been on my postgraduate program since September and I have been so occupied with lectures, coursework, and settling down. Sometimes, I am overwhelmed and other times I feel calm and hopeful. I must say, it has been mixed feelings but I’ve come to realize that it’s just normal to feel that way; I am perfectly fine now, and I think I’m blending really well.
This topic has been on my mind for some weeks now, pondering on it while I do some of my course works and thoughts of how my MSc journey started amidst the pandemic, how I scaled through and how I have been able to cope till now. I should let you know that we are all in this together and everyone, in a way, is feeling the impacts of the pandemic and its effects on the economy across the globe. But how do we remain focused, positive and daring during these most difficult times? How do we make the best of decisions and be strong in mind and spirit? I’ve had my own share, and I am just here today to encourage you to keep thriving even in this difficult time.
Some days I am crying and in that same minute you will see me smile with confidence (with a teary face), saying that I am strong and all will be fine. True strength comes from within and those we have around us. When it seems like your inner strength is gone, even though you think you’re strong, the people you have around you as friends, relatives, children, spouse and many others, will be a source of inspiration for you to carry on till the end.
What’s your driving force? What makes you do the things you do? As they locally say in Nigeria, “wetin dey ginger you?” Na that tin wey dey ginger you, go make you dey hustle dey go… (meaning- It’s your driving force that keeps you going). The body may be weak, morale may be very low, the people around that are supposed to help, may even be the one making the matter worse; but wetin man go do? Man gats move on and see how things go better…. We no just fit sit down, dey do nothing, NO! We have to be up and standing and take control of the situation! For me, amidst my tears and worries, I take innovative action. While crying, my head is constantly thinking of a solution, a way out. I’m solution driven, and oftentimes, those actions I take at my most vulnerable state, always land me in paradise (that is, a profound solution that comes with progress). Yes, it may be difficult to take good decisions while crying or at one’s most vulnerable state but truthfully, it is at that point you should trust your instinct the most. Constant practice and the results you get will guide you more in great decision making. There’s a Yoruba adage which literally means in English that when one is crying, the person sees, this simply means our emotions or emotional state shouldn’t cloud our decisions. We should be able to effectively distinguish our emotions and be very logical and reasonable in decision making.
Finance is usually a common problem, everyone is feeling it, in fact the whole world is in need of it but as an individual what can you do? This is the time to plan your finance and resources the most, guide it diligently, spend and invest wisely. These days, no one is ready to part away with their money, yet scammers are everywhere looking to steal from you. You must be wise and be quick to detect false information, not everything that glitters are gold. When the offer sounds too good, RUN! Run for your dear life, don’t let anyone steal the small money you are managing; don’t be used as an instrument for fraud- for example a third-party transaction with the promise of a large amount of money, that will definitely get you into a big trouble. Prioritize your needs and ensure you’re spending money and time only on the things you truly need; go for a cheaper brand if possible, provided you will get value for money.
Life na jeje…(Take life a step at a time). As much as we have big hopes, dreams and aspirations, we should not be too engrossed or carried away with those dreams of ours. Sometimes things may not just work out as expected, calm down, take a break, I mean relax and gradually watch things/nature take its course. When we get too engrossed and expectations are not met, it becomes overwhelming and just too much to bear. Just relax, provided you have done everything humanly, within your powers. Things will fall in place. You must remain positive at all times. In the midst of many doubts, fear and my struggles, I just always say to myself that I will be great; the world will hear of my name for good. I will be of positive impact to my generations and generations yet unborn. These positive confessions in a way, restructures my thoughts, perceptions and proffers lasting solutions to any problem. Focus on the positive side of a situation- see the cup as half full rather than being half empty. No one is above mistake, learn from it and move on quickly. Don’t dwell on your inadequacies, that you are alive today is an assurance of hope and you can start today to make things right. There is no Mr. perfect anywhere, we are all work in progress, thriving to be great.
Above all, put your trust in God. His word says come unto me all ye that labour and are heavy laden and I will give you rest… God gives the best of direction and the discerning spirit comes from Him. With God, I can do all things. If everything fails, God will never fail; I am a living testimony. He knows and sees the heart of men and with His power, He can send you helpers, and bless you abundantly. I tearfully seek God’s face at all times, because He’s the reason I am alive today, He’s my last resort. When all hopes are gone, when I get to a crossroad and don’t know what else to do, I call on my heavenly father for guidance and direction and He always answers. Why not trust Him with the journey of your life and see how your life will be transformed for good. See, I am not a preacher, I am just sharing with you what I tested and I’ve come to trust.
Your life is in your hands and I will advise you to make the best of it. Maximize every opportunity that comes your way, especially life transforming opportunities. There’s no short corner to success. If it will require you to serve someone, please do; best leaders are servants. Don’t worry, you just trust the process. Don’t be too much in a hurry, it will definitely work out. Just remain focused and let your end goal keep you motivated. I sincerely see your struggles and I pray for you that God is His infinite mercy will come through for you and your family and will wipe those silent tears of yours. I love you and can’t wait to hear from you through your comments or messages. Cheers to a greater future, 2021 will definitely be better.
PS: My daughter in this picture is giving mummy a sarcastic look, probably wondering what’s mummy excited about….lol. She is sending her greetings as well and we can’t wait to celebrate with you in the coming year. Much love!